the other day i was talking to Mr. Big about porn and just today Army Boy and i were talking about gay marriage in the military and pony play in the BDSM aspect. now, i realize many people aren't into "that type" of sexual activity, but everyone is exposed to some type of pornography in their life and everyone is exposed to some type of dominant/submissive/sadist/masochist person or relationship in their life as well. so i'm wondering, what makes people feel safe with labels? what makes pornography pornography versus erotica? i can give you an answer, but it's a political answer. you know how the politicians came up with the answer?...it's so they wouldn't have to deal with court cases over the issue. in reality, porn and erotica are the same in the sense that it deals with nudity and people and explicit material but it's the intent behind the type of media. also, it's up to the different city to make their own claim on the difference. so what may constitute porn in my city may be different than LA's definition and both of these definitions are going to be different in some court house in Kentucky.
wow that was a ramble. sorry. basically what i'm trying to ask is...why does there need to be a normative? what's so scary about deviations from what "everyone else does"? now, i'm not saying that i understand everything, because obviously i don't. for example, i have an interest in Furries because i don't understand why this is appealing. i respect people who want to partake in Furry activity but that doesn't mean that i'm going to myself. and why?...first of all because that doesn't necessarily tickle my fancy, but also because i don't understand it.
and this reason is why i want to have the career that i want. being an MFT is just a stepping stone into the actual title i want which is Sex Therapist. i want to understand everything i can about sexuality, orientation, what makes people do and be attracted to certain things and everything else under the sun about gender and the like. so i guess to answer my own question, any deviation from the norm group is due to ignorance and people's willingness to stay ignorant. really, that's all it comes down to. you don't understand something and yet you don't like it?...and you're okay with that?
it's weird in the sense that, i know i'm ignorant about things and i just don't care to educate myself about them. like politics, wars, oil, cars, money, etc. all these things i really don't care about so i don't bother to know much. why do i need to know about politics? all i need to know is that i have a certain set of beliefs and i need to pick the person who can best fit those ideas. i don't need to know about oil because there's nothing i can do about the cost or where it comes from. i don't need to know about cars because i pay for AAA and anything that happens i know they will fix it or i can go to my dad's mechanic. done and done. but those aren't personal to me or the people around me or making my world a better place.
understanding about the different forms of sexuality, the many different forms of gender, different orientations, different relationships, etc is what will make the world a much nicer place to live in. i think this is one of the reasons that i don't want to have children. i would hate to bring my child up in a place where ignorance is the norm and teaching that there are many different types of love and that none are wrong is the deviation. so what i can teach my own child to not be ignorant, but what good is that if he/she is the deviation and not the norm? i want those values to be the norm instead of the deviation.
i'm not saying that all my views are right. i'm not saying that i advocate for pornography. honestly, i don't ever really watch it and i'm not a fan of it truthfully. but i'm not going to look down on someone who does. i really couldn't care if i get married, but i think that if i marry someone that i should have the same legal rights as the majority group regardless of the sex of my partner. it's just a basic human right to be happy..
isn't that what everyone wants?.... to be happy? why would a person want to take that basic human right away from another human being?
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